When I was a kid I learned about the “cycle of abuse” I was so sure I would end up like my dad, I started drinking hevely at around 12 and lagit intended to not live long enough to ever be a parent, then after a fairly shitty youth I decided it was time to kill myself or try and fix shit, I had already lost 2 brothers to suicide so I knew the effect that had on the people left behind so I joined the Army reserves and started trying to fix my shit, I thought I was doin pretty good at 27, so I let my then wife talk me into us haveing a baby, my son was born and I dedicated myself to being the best father I could, but wasnt till I was 40 that I started working on mental health (thanks to current wife) my life has had a lot of super not great, but im here and still working on being a good parent.

No worries, I learned how to be a good father and have raised my children to be better then me.

My Dad.

He was verbally and physically abusive, extremely manipulative. He is currently dieing in prison serving out a 25 year sentence for attempted rape and abduction.

I got a DNA test done and then sent the results to all of the forensic genealogy groups because I’m pretty sure he has victims out there.